Good on paper but…

Now, I see that there are real actual reasons why wives are desperate, to use the term loosely.

They just need to be touched. Yes, touched, held, kissed. paid attention to and cherished.

According to the Time magazine article, that is.

I really enjoyed the part about men and visual stimulation:

But many women blame it on their physical appearance. Is that an issue?

Yes, and no. As I said before, sometimes guys are just overwhelmed, or they’re fatigued, or they’re drinking alcohol, which might lower their libido and their ability to function. So the “no” part is that it could have absolutely nothing to do with their wives.

But there’s a “yes” part, too, that I don’t want to overlook. I’ve gotten tons of e-mails and heard this many times from men in my practice, who say, “I love my wife. I want to stay married, but, I have to tell you, she has totally let herself go. She doesn’t eat well. She doesn’t exercise. All she ever wears is sweatpants. It makes me feel that she feels that the relationship isn’t important. I’ve just lost my attraction for her.” If [those wives] think there’s any chance at all that their looks may have something to do with the problem, rather than bemoan the fact that they think their husbands are shallow — I agree — they should also understand that attraction is a very basic, animalistic thing — especially for men. Men are more visually oriented when it comes to arousal. So women can debate that, but the truth is, if they really want their husbands be more interested in them, they should pay more attention to how they’re taking care of themselves physically.

The good doctor, err forgive me, clinical social worker, Ms. Weiner Davis wrote a book about this topic. The link is to a published interview.

I have two things to say:

-aren’t those women wearing sweatpants while they do their daily stripper aerobics workout?

-when will women stop watching these experts on the talk shows and give their men a BJ or whatever he needs to keep things going?

I say less chit-chat with the experts, more quickies with the man.

Just my spoiled bitchy sugar baby opinion.

On my way to spend some money on keeping my soft skin fragrant, catch you guys later.

-A