Good on paper but…

My Dad told me he was going to make sure I had my own money, for things were changing and he doubted that i would be able to find a man to take care of me and our kids.( We are old school, we believe in marriage and a baby. Not just the baby.)

He understands the need for the sexual revolution but he said the aftereffects would be rough on the traditional kind of woman. Oh yeah.

I support all kinds of lifestyles but I would like to see the survival of the hunted beast-married to a man, and having the ability to be cared for as the caretaker of the home, him, and the babies.

It takes two incomes at times but often, it is the attitude that it is somehow weak of a man to care for his woman, that bugs me. That a real woman will work a 20 hour day, just because she can.

Umm, no. If it is about choice, then why is it so hard to have that one? It is not just the financial economy-it is the economy of the mind that reduces everyone to the value of what they can produce in dollars. Men are dollars, women are dollars with asses and tits to boot-there is nothing but that.

I know a few old-school dudes that feel like your wife is precious (not just your fellow dollar collector.) They are close to extinction, as well.

One told me that he does have to go off on some guys he knows periodically, who insist that he is deluded or wrong for wanting his wife to stay home with the kids. She can work, but he wants her to work on the kids. Like he said, he can get another job but he can’t just replace his kids and if they are screwed up, he is going to blame himself, not anyone else.

Now, I maybe a bluestocking, a smart-ass, a sexy bookworm and a few other things, but I do think that kids are important. A woman can work if she wants but she should not be seen as a milestone, if she is doing her job at home.

Yes, I have been forced to defend the rights of stay-at-home Moms to strangers in my daily rounds at times., just as I defend hookers, hippies, a few conservatives and stoners. Takes all kinds to make a strong society.

I knew as a teen that it was be rough, for the popular songs changed. Used to be a time when a player was glad to keep his woman looking good and sharp. Now even the criminals expect the gf’s, baby mommas, wives and so on to be out the door by 8a.m. to get to her job. That was the prime reason for wanting a “baller”, to get spoiled.

We are pervaded with misogyny in our world, along with hopelessness, cynicism and gold diggers. Yes some women are shiny-eyed , heartless gold diggers. (God loves them, too, before you say something mean.)

With this continued sexual revolution, I would like to see a economical parity for women, as well as the chance to be just as raunchy and hot as men are acting.

Until then I thank my Dad for not only providing me with money but the means (education, a brain ) and attitude ( wily, willing to work) to be able to make some for myself.

Kisses to you, Dad.